Dehli-based lifestyle magazine, Joyful Living, has been featuring
a column titled, 'Enlighten Yourself,' where members of the
public send in questions to the publication, to be answered
by Gurudev. Below is a selection of these questions and answers.
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do some people always try to find fault in others?
are five levels of consciousness. First, you are responsible.
Second, we are responsible. Third, I am responsible.
Fourth, nobody is responsible. And the last, nothing
ever happened. People who always try to find fault in
others live at the lowest (first) level of consciousness.
sister is over-sensitive and cannot take any humour.
How can I handle her?
is how she is. Better forget about handling her. Handle
yourself... if you can.
always like to talk about myself. Sometimes, it is to
the extent of boasting about myself. Why is it so?
Garima Sonkar, Chadigarh
is how you are. The only way out is: increase the level
keep coming across the word "I-ness" in spiritual
books. What does it mean?
Reshmi Mehta, Bhopal
teacher uses the same words in different ways. Actually
there is only "I" (call it God, Allah, Self,
or whatever you like), but no "I-ness." "I-ness"
is a delusion; "am-ness" is a reality.
being egoistic harmful?
Charulata Sen Choudhury
is not harmful. It is a must for functioning. But being
an egoist is certainly harmful to oneself, as well as
is the difference between self-confidence, self-esteem
Dr Ravi Verma, Haridwar
is a state of un-self-consciousness. Self-esteem is
a natural flow of self-confidence. Ego is identified
consciousness, when consciousness identifies with the
body and believes itself as the body.
can one be confident without being egoist?
Kuldip Ahuja, Nasik
does spiritualism mean?
A H Thakur, Hyderabad
is a self-realising "Who I am"... or rather
realising "What I am."
it possible to feel your chakras? If so, what do chakra
activations feel like.
Ravi Malhotra, Dehli
Each Chakra has its own vibration, sound and colour.
When a particular Chakra gets activated by a certain
practice, the individual can feel the vibrations of
the particular chakra or can listen to the sound or
can see the colour.
can I help my children in their growth and spirit?
Archana Sharma, Bangalore
them courage not fear. Teach them how to thin, don't
give them set beliefs and dogmas. Don't impose your
ideas, concepts, let them explore and experience on
there such a thing called evil?
Amaan Ali, Kolkata
if you believe in. Good and evil are beliefs which keep
on changing all the time. They differ in each society,
each race and each nation. What goes on changing cannot
do some spiritual teachers empahsize the importance
of communicating with yourself?
know better. Ask them. First know the Self - rather
be the Self - then the Self will communicate with you.
Rati Chakrobory, Jaipur
theory, a dogma, a belief, a concept. When one accepts
any theory or concept, it may be comforting. But if
it is not based on one's experience, it has no validity.
can I deal with negative situations?
not. Accept life as it comes. Change the attitude, don't
fight with the situations.
can I achieve my goals?
is better live life as it happens. Learn to accept,
enjoy, celebrate whatsoever is happening in this moment.
Goal orientation involves future, future involves insecurity,
can I attain higher consiousness awareness?
can I become more enlightened?
more and more conscious of your acts, thoughts and feelings.
can I overcome negative thinking?
Mukherji, New Dehli
regularly. Become more and more conscious.
I get angry with someone, I start hating him/her. I
can never forgive. I know it is wrong. Please help me.
the actual reason of your becoming angry with someone
then the needful can be done. Anger is a nature's protective
mechanism. It can help, it can harm. It is like a knife.
Knife can be used to cut vegetables, but it can cut
fingers also if one is not careful. It depends on the
am very hot tempered. How can I control my anger?
cannot. The word control is very fanatic. First thing
is: accept anger. Be acquainted, be friendly.
some people are superstitious and others are not? Are
weak people superstitious?
is how things are. That is how people are. Even so called
bold people are also superstitious. Not to be superstitious
needs great understanding, great intelligence. Only
un-intelligent people are supersititous.
always try to avoid people. Even dread speaking on the
phone. It's not that I am inferior or unsuccessful.
I am very bold, happy and successful in life and career.
What is the reason behind this problem?
must be having superiority complex. All so called successful
people develop superiority complex and become self-centered.
They cannot afford to mix with people.
do people believe in god when they cannot see him/her
or has proof of his/her existence?
is their problem, not yours. Let them believe and console
themselves. God cannot be seen by the eyes made of flesh.
Only names and forms can be seen through these eyes.
And your asking the question is enough proof of his
existence. God cannot be something separate from you.
You are God - un-realized, fast asleep. Wake-up and
realize. He is not a person, He is a presence. Become
fully aware of your own presence and you will realize,
"what you are, the whole existence is." What
appears is not, what is does not appear. Because you
are, everything is.
often have nightmares and wake up terror-stricken during
the night. What is the reason?
K Khanna, Mumbai
must be quite afraid and suppressed person.
always try to give good values to their children. Still
all children are not of the same nature. Why is it so?
Srabani Sen, New Dehli
simply means lack of understanding. And, anything done
without understanding, never works. Good or bad - all
values are man's creation and they are subject to change
according to needs, circumstances, society, cultures